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Expectations

One of the issues I’ve been thinking about in my intimate relationships, and in particular this last one, is the role expectation plays in success or failure. My expectations were pretty basic I thought. I wanted a partner. Someone who could help to support our household. Someone who would plan for our future with me. Someone who felt that contributing to our marriage and household was important. Someone that I could share my dreams and hopes with. A simple life. And in the beginning, Jay seemed interested […]

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Am I a hypocrite?

Jae ASPD, Daily Living, My Story, Your Mind

I have had to take a deep look at myself and my own behavior in my relationship with Jay. Here’s what troubles me the most. I wanted to help Jay to overcome deep seated issues that I wasn’t qualified to deal with — I thought with enough love, support and understanding, he could become the person that I knew he was deep inside. Get that? Do you see all of the I statements above? I mean, I still have excuses and justifications for this behavior on my […]

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Cognitive Dissonance in Relationships with ASPD partners

Jae ASPD, General, My Story

Just a reminder – I am not a professional mental health expert. As with everything on this site, the following is based on my own, deeply personal experience. I only came to fully realize that I was involved with, and married to, a partner with ASPD during the discard phase of our relationship. Because of the way it ended, I started looking for any information that I could find that would help with my own mental health. ASPD checked almost all of the boxes in terms of […]

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